Having it all

The Vicious Cycle
Here is the thing. My looks are really important to me, but so is my job as a wife and mother! It's always been important to me to run a house well! I almost need things to be organized, clean, and streamlined; my husband definitely does. I've noticed that when my house is unorganized and messy my anxiety acts up. I've also noticed that I loose my motivation to do anything. Then here we are talking about a different kind of cycle...The Vicious One!

My vicious cycle is really not a fun ride. I will do really well for quite some time, keep my house immaculate, loose weight, teach Yoga. Then Bam! That darn cycle bites me! So it starts with perhaps slacking off on the meals and dining out a little too much. Then I decide that I need some relaxation time, instead of working out. Perhaps a few pounds creep back up and I begin feeling even lazier. My house starts to get messy and I feel defeated! Usually this only lasts a few days to a week, but geeze it takes the wind out of my sails. With everything in me I want to be the perfect wife and mother. So how do you do it?

 

Find Balance!

But really how do we find balance? Here are some of the ideas I've come up with based on my own successes and failures! Consider me your own personal guinie pig! 

1. Have Organization in your life!

I really want to be an organized person, I have every intention of doing this and sometimes I do a great job. But then other things get in the way. Which brings me to my next point.

2. Have Structure: 

Eat your meals at the same time everyday (this is actually a biggie for weight loss). Have a routine, if you are going to do it all, you need to make some sacrifices. For me I know that I need to wake up and get things done early in the day, because I'm a lost cause at night!

3. Have Discipline: 

In order to have organization and structure in your life you need to have self discipline. Which is not an easy thing to master.

4. Make Time only for the Important Things in your Life:

 I've realized that if I want to have it all, some things are going to have to go. One of them being frequent leisure. By frequent leisure, I'm saying laying flat on my butt doing nothing, which is pretty awesome! If you have seen my butt lately, you would see that I've been doing a lot of laying on it! In all seriousness if you want your house to be clean, you want your body to look hot, you want to spend time organizing, doing crafts, birthday parties the list goes on. You have to make some sacrifices.

Making Sacrifices:

The weird thing about making sacrifices is that often once you start to make a habit out of them they stop feeling like sacrifices. When I am doing well at the "Balancing Act" all the sacrifices I make don't feel like a sacrifice, they feel great! So how do you stop from falling off the wagon?

Falling off the Wagon:

Face it it's going to happen. Life is too short to never have a slice of cake or let yourself relax on the couch and do nothing after a hard day of work. But let's face this fact, a day or two off the wagon can really turn your life upside down! From my experience with this, which is quite a lot! You need to plan your trips off the wagon and then plan to get back on. If you want to have it all you need to be a planner! If your planning on taking a day off working out/cleaning/organizing/eating healthy, you're going to have to do some rebound work. So make a plan to get back on the wagon.

Getting Back on the Wagon:

As I previously said you need a plan to get back on the wagon. Plans are a great thing! Especially for mothers, working mothers, females, pretty much human beings in general. It allows us to prioritize and have a visualization for getting things done. Even if that visualization is only in your head. However, I do find that it is much more motivating to have plans written out! So before you take a break from your busy life, make a plan to get back to your life as soon as possible!

With everything we busy women have to do, its very easy to forget about yourself. So pay attention your ques, signs, symptoms, whatever you want to call them. Stay in-tune with yourself, if you know that around two weeks of working out that you are going to relapse into the laying on your butt of the past. Make a plan to power through it! As women we are natural born planners and naturally very in-tune to others. So pay attention to your thoughts, because they become your feelings and pay attention to your feelings because they become your actions! Most importantly pay attention to yourself, you deserve it!